The Grass Is Brown Everywhere!
Spark #152 - Why chasing “better” might be the thing keeping you stuck
I heard this years ago from my friend Linda:
The grass is brown everywhere.
It stuck. It still does.
Linda was a CEO of a company owned by a massive pharma company. She was responsible for and managed 5,000 people around the world.
Linda also taught yoga at my studio once a week. For joy. That’s how we met.
She mentored me while I ran a much smaller team. Thirty plus teachers, always coming and going. I’d vent to her about the chaos, the churn, the emotional whiplash of people leaving. Each goodbye felt like a failure.
One day she shared her own experience.
People leaving for shinier titles,
only to come back
or admit it wasn’t better.
“They’d leave for more money or a fancier title.
Many came back and they’d admit it wasn’t any better”
Then she dropped the line that’s never left me:
The grass is brown everywhere.
It’s not negative. It’s honest.
We think the next job, the new town, the different partner will finally be it.
But give it time and the same frustrations creep in.
Because we bring ourselves with us.
Same patterns. Same expectations. Same need to run.
The chase keeps us stuck.
It robs us of what’s already here.
That phrase still snaps me out of it.
And brings me back to now.
This messy, imperfect, still-beautiful now.
The next place won’t save you.
The next person won’t fix it.
It’s not better over there until you get real with what’s here.
What you really want.
What you're really willing to do.
Do the work.
You may just find some green fields out there.
✨If this hit home, you're not alone.
This is the kind of shift I help people make.
Another gem!
this reminds me of something my father used to tell me “ success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get.“ He often would tell me that as I had this huge fear of settling. Whether it was my job or my relationship or whatever.