Stop Being the Fixer
Spark #93 - Why always fixing everyone else’s problems is wearing you down.
Being The Fixer—And Secretly Resenting It.
You’re the go-to person.
Everyone leans on you because you make it look effortless.
But deep down, you’re exhausted.
Mentally. Emotionally. Physically.
You hold it all together.
But no one knows how heavy that weight is.
I’ve been there.
I used to be the compulsive fixer.
Fixing my kids’ issues.
Solving problems at work.
Stepping in to handle other people’s messes.
The more I fixed, the more something felt off.
Sound familiar?
You feel like you have to handle everything.
You’re always “on”—even when you’re supposed to be “off.”
You’re running out of time but never quite getting enough done.
You wonder when you’ll catch a break—without something else needing fixing.
At some point, I realized what I was avoiding:
I was afraid of letting life unfold without my control.
I didn’t know how to stop.
And I didn’t know what it would feel like to not fix everything.
Now, when I feel that familiar pressure—tight chest, short breath, stiff shoulders—I stop.
I remind myself:
Not everything needs fixing.
Some things just need space and time to resolve on their own.
Next time that pressure starts to build, ask yourself:
Is this really mine to fix, or can I let it go?
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