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Dr Christine DiBlasio's avatar

Couldn't agree more. I ask that question often. I also remember reading somewhere this question: "Do you want to be heard, hugged or helped." Good advice too.

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Cara Bradley's avatar

I’m not surprised that you’re already doing this!

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Linnea Butler, MS, LMFT ✨'s avatar

A simple question that changes everything. If you mean it.

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Cara Bradley's avatar

Right! Good point. You have to mean it (or don’t say it).

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Elizabeth Neiland's avatar

This is a fantastic reminder

Sometimes I want to ask but… to

Be honest…

I think what if they say yes and give me something to help with?

Do I have time ? What will it be?

But you are right

They mostly just want to be acknowledged

To know that you care

And it feels good to really connect

Just not to be on the surface

Really stop

Listen and try to understand

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Cara Bradley's avatar

Great reflection Elizabeth! I think most of us feel the same and so we don't ask. But what if we did?

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Dr. Bronce Rice's avatar

2 questions I often put together. How are you doing? + How can I help? It's nice to be reminded of how we can actually help others along the way. Thank you for helping us remember on certain days that is all it takes. If one is in need it can be a humbling experience to ask for help. This way the asking often goes just a touch easier.

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Cara Bradley's avatar

It does get easier as we do it more often. Like a muscle! Thanks for sharing your process.

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VOICE OF TRUTH's avatar

Yep. 💯

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Cara Bradley's avatar

I knew you’d get it.

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Regina Leeds's avatar

There is a post that circulates on Facebook periodically that suggests if you hate cancer keep sharing the post. I never understand the idea behind this. As a survivor, here is my advice: find a patient & ask how you can help. DO something.

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Cara Bradley's avatar

Regina, this is gold. The most simple and obvious thing we can do is often overlooked.

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