Lift Them Up

Spark #97 - The fastest way to boost confidence when you’re feeling invisible

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It’s simple. It’s free.

It’s easy to feel unseen.
Like no one notices how hard you’re trying.
Like your effort doesn’t count.

One of the simplest ways to lift yourself up is to lift someone else.

• See them.

• Acknowledge what they do well.

• Let them know they matter.

Not with fake compliments or sugar-coated fluff.
Really see them.
Notice the effort.
Name the impact.

I started doing this back when I led 35 yoga teachers at my studio.
Every day, I made it a habit to acknowledge someone.

• A quick text: “You’re becoming a master teacher.”

• A short email: “Your class was really strong today.”

Just feeling seen can shift someone’s whole day.
And it lifted me too. Every time.

Everyone feels it.
Confidence nose dives when you feel invisible.
It’s easy to doubt yourself when no one recognizes how much you’re trying.

But when you name the good in someone else, something happens.
You feel more energized.
More confident.

The Science Behind It

It’s not just a feel-good move—it actually reinforces those same strengths in you.
Research shows that when you recognize someone else’s growth, you strengthen your own self-perception.¹

Lift someone up today.
Even if it’s just telling a store clerk they were helpful.

It’s simple. It’s free.
And it always comes back tenfold.

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1. K. G. DeMarree, R. R. Briñol, & R. E. Petty (2010). Self-Validation of Role Playing. Psychological Science, 21(6), 744–750.