I masked this concept in humility. Thought I was insisting upon myself. Our worth is intrinsic. The space we take is the space we take. It belongs to us. I love this post, Cara.
Thank you for this insight Mark. It’s true, it’s easy to go invisible in the name of humility. Been there too. It’s a tricky balance that I’m not sure we have to figure out, especially if we focus on being fully ourselves no matter what.
Ah! You just hit on something I have been batting around but unable to express. In menopause I have gained weight. I used to be an hour glass figure now am more of an apple. So i tried GLP-1s. They made me eat way less and the problem is i already struggle to meet my daily caloric numbers. Anyway, i recently quit due to the gastric distress, since i have crohns, it was more than i could take. So i have been ruminating about this body. And you nailed it on the head, i take up more space now. And that makes me so uncomfortable!! Very uncomfortable! I want to just blend in! But it is lonely blending in and not being noticed by anyone! The only way to combat that is to stand out by putting myself out there to make friends!! It is hard, but i am doing it and so far no one has said a word about my weight just how thankful they are for being seen and wanted to go have lunch with! So,long story longer, it is not my weight, it is my taking up space in this world! Next month when i get in a plane i will not apologize for taking up space! I am actually coming to your neck of the woods in June!! Thank you for helping me put this dis-ease into words! Now to deal with not wanting to take up space!
Thank you for your vulnerability. I assure you that you are not alone. My sense from my own experience is that no one is really paying close attention to the details that we hyper focus on. When we can embrace that no one is looking we feel more freedom to show up fully authentic. I love that song from The Greatest Showman, “This is me”. It says it all.
I masked this concept in humility. Thought I was insisting upon myself. Our worth is intrinsic. The space we take is the space we take. It belongs to us. I love this post, Cara.
Thank you for this insight Mark. It’s true, it’s easy to go invisible in the name of humility. Been there too. It’s a tricky balance that I’m not sure we have to figure out, especially if we focus on being fully ourselves no matter what.
Ah! You just hit on something I have been batting around but unable to express. In menopause I have gained weight. I used to be an hour glass figure now am more of an apple. So i tried GLP-1s. They made me eat way less and the problem is i already struggle to meet my daily caloric numbers. Anyway, i recently quit due to the gastric distress, since i have crohns, it was more than i could take. So i have been ruminating about this body. And you nailed it on the head, i take up more space now. And that makes me so uncomfortable!! Very uncomfortable! I want to just blend in! But it is lonely blending in and not being noticed by anyone! The only way to combat that is to stand out by putting myself out there to make friends!! It is hard, but i am doing it and so far no one has said a word about my weight just how thankful they are for being seen and wanted to go have lunch with! So,long story longer, it is not my weight, it is my taking up space in this world! Next month when i get in a plane i will not apologize for taking up space! I am actually coming to your neck of the woods in June!! Thank you for helping me put this dis-ease into words! Now to deal with not wanting to take up space!
Thank you for your vulnerability. I assure you that you are not alone. My sense from my own experience is that no one is really paying close attention to the details that we hyper focus on. When we can embrace that no one is looking we feel more freedom to show up fully authentic. I love that song from The Greatest Showman, “This is me”. It says it all.
Love this. Yes - we need to take up more space - even on our yoga mat.
When you walk with confidence, you never know who is watching you. Sensing your positive attitude. You not only lift yourself, but others.