Take Up More Space
Spark #332 - Confidence isn't something you try to feel
Invisible.
I felt it at a conference in Tulum. Surrounded by tech bros. It was as if I didn’t exist.
I felt it in Houston in a room of bankers. I wasn’t a high ranking executive. I had only built a million dollar wellness business. I kept that part to myself.
That habit of going invisible. I know it well.
As a yoga teacher, I tell students:
Stretch to the edge of your fingertips.
Own the pose.
Take up more space.
Practice it on the mat, I tell them, and it starts showing up everywhere else.
I’ve learned to take my own medicine.
To build confidence by doing.
But I still have to remind myself:
Walk like you belong.
Because you do.
Take up more space.
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I masked this concept in humility. Thought I was insisting upon myself. Our worth is intrinsic. The space we take is the space we take. It belongs to us. I love this post, Cara.
Ah! You just hit on something I have been batting around but unable to express. In menopause I have gained weight. I used to be an hour glass figure now am more of an apple. So i tried GLP-1s. They made me eat way less and the problem is i already struggle to meet my daily caloric numbers. Anyway, i recently quit due to the gastric distress, since i have crohns, it was more than i could take. So i have been ruminating about this body. And you nailed it on the head, i take up more space now. And that makes me so uncomfortable!! Very uncomfortable! I want to just blend in! But it is lonely blending in and not being noticed by anyone! The only way to combat that is to stand out by putting myself out there to make friends!! It is hard, but i am doing it and so far no one has said a word about my weight just how thankful they are for being seen and wanted to go have lunch with! So,long story longer, it is not my weight, it is my taking up space in this world! Next month when i get in a plane i will not apologize for taking up space! I am actually coming to your neck of the woods in June!! Thank you for helping me put this dis-ease into words! Now to deal with not wanting to take up space!