Stop Over-Explaining

Spark #309 - You don’t need a backstory.

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I used to over-explain to make others comfortable.

I’d walk people through my big decisions so it made sense to them.
I was looking for their approval.
I wanted to fit in.

I did this when I transferred colleges.
When I quit my MBA.
When I let my hair go silver.
I did it when I sold my yoga studio.
Then when I gave up my home and lived on the road.

At 60, I finally saw it.
Over-explaining was how I stayed safe.
I figured, if it made sense, I could avoid the judgment.
It was exhausting. And stupid.

Then I watched an episode of The Bear.

Sloppy and gruff Cousin Richie walks into a Michelin-starred restaurant and something clicks.
He sharpens up. He starts wearing suits.
People keep telling him he looks great.

And every time, he says the same thing.
I wear suits now.

No long story. Just those four words. Think about it.

I did and here’s where I stand.

I’m done trying to make others comfortable with my choices.
I’m done over-explaining and looking for approval.
Judge me or not. It no longer matters.

I wear suits now.

✨What are you done explaining?