Stop Over-Explaining. Say It. Own It.
Spark #53 - How to own your decisions with confidence
You explain yourself too much.
You justify your choices—why you changed jobs, ended a relationship, moved cities. You over-explain when you don’t have to.
I know because I did it too.
I’ve justified why I transferred colleges. Why I quit my MBA. Why I let my hair go silver. Why I sold my yoga studio, left Philly, and lived on the road for three years.
At 60, I finally see it.
I don’t owe anyone an explanation. And neither do you.
There’s a great episode of the television series The Bear. In it, sloppy, gruff Cousin Richie lands in a Michelin-starred restaurant. Something clicks. He sharpens up, shifts his attitude, and starts wearing suits.
People notice. “Richie, you look great.”
His response? Every time, with confidence: “I wear suits now.”
No explanation. No backstory. Just a declaration.
That stayed with me for days. Then I decided:
I’m done justifying. No more oversharing.
So here’s where I stand:
I’m a performance coach. I cut through excuses and get people into action.
I’m a writer and the creator of Sparked—a daily freaking newsletter!
I teach what works—hard work, disrupting patterns, pushing limits, and getting unstuck.
I’m building a community that refuses to settle for good enough. (Join us!)
Period. End of story.
Like Richie, I’ve found a new level of confidence. And it’s working.
Now it’s your turn.
Who are you, right now? What are you doing? Can you state it simply, without over-explaining?
Decide who you are. Own it. No backstory. No justification.
I wear suits now. Thank you, Cousin Richie.
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